Learn Another Way
The material I have provided here is in response to someone’s having asked me some questions about a child who was diagnosed with ADHD. As I grew up with both ADHD and Dyslexia and without necessarily realizing how, taught myself to overcome most of the difficulties those two “LAW” situations created. By “LAW” I mean “Learn another Way.”
An important note I should make: my comments are entirely personal and reflect my personal experience only. I am not a psychologist, I am not a psychiatrist and while I have studied the two topics initially named, I hold no degrees on the subjects and I have never treated other people who have Dyslexia and Adhd. I am not a therapist nor a counselor on this topic. But I have lived with these two conditions and how people around me responded to me for my entire life.
These comments are personal. But they come out of extensive personal experience and self-awareness of how it works. Your job is to take what is of value and leave the rest.
I am offering neither therapy nor any suggested course of action to people. I am speaking about this topic from considerable personal experience with the topics in the hopes that you may find a self-created method of dealing with Dyslexia and Adhd, which works for you. I would add that finding your own personal solution and way of dealing with these two situations is precisely one the strongest positive aspects to having them.
Those people who have Dyslexia and Adhd are uniquely talented in having the innate skill-set to create their own solutions. So, that is your first good thing to keep in mind: creating unique and un-thought-of-before solutions is a key strength associated with Dyslexia and Adhd.
Look To Yourself
That strength means, however, that you will have to start looking to yourself to find solutions and a way of dealing with these two odd situations on your own. That is because most people, even good meaning and highly trained people, are often stuck in “problem solving” (there being a “problem” in the first place) and all too often resorting to drugs to mask the situation.
So, the good news is that the solution is yours to create. The bad news is that until you see it that way it is a “problem” that appears to have no solution, only symptom relief and a lot of disappointment coming from loved ones who think there is a problem.
I believe that people who have Dyslexia and Adhd or family members of someone who does or are a friend of someone who does could find this blog very helpful.
In addition, this blog will help parents, family and friends of those who have Dyslexia and Adhd if they wish to pursue seeing things in a new way.
First Off –
Dyslexia and Adhd have three main impacts on the person with them:
- The Impact Itself as a unique, unusual, odd, unorthodox, situation for the person with it, and,
- The impact it has on the family, friends, school, teachers and people who react to the situation, and,
- The impact on the person, often a child, that those outside-people have on the child due to how they react to the situation.
Those three things create the “situation” for the child. I will refer, now, to the person with Dyslexia and Adhd with the word “child” as that is the most precious situation. Adults who have this situation can benefit too. But I will just refer to the people with the situation as “the child” henceforth.
Often, it is the impact on the child of #3 above that causes the most difficulty. This is due to the fact that, as a child, the child does not yet have the internal psychological strengths necessary to deal with outside people, especially primary care givers and teachers, who see the child as “flawed” and “broken” (even though they may be very well-meaning.) The child has to deal with negative judgments, put-downs, criticisms, and unspoken judgments about their mental strength (such as poor IQ test results) that will label the child.
All of the material on this blog is intended to help everyone associated with the child and the child himself to see things in a different light. And, there is no criticism of those who may see this quite differently from what I write here.
Most of what I write about is from personal experience and the stories told are from personal experience. They are not theoretical and not abstract. And this is not a therapeutic method. As I said before, take what is of value and leave the rest.